Guest Post: How to tell your children that you’re getting divorced by Sue Atkins

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One of the main worries of parents who are going through a divorce is how to tell the children about what is going to happen and what to actually say to them.

Children naturally fear that they will lose one of their parents in a divorce or that their parents will abandon them. They also fear the changes and disruptions that a divorce will inevitably bring to their family and they often blame themselves.

One of the key things I ask parents to do is to sit down and to work out together the answer to this question:

  • What are the key messages you want to convey to your children?


I ask them to get a piece of paper write their child’s name on it and to put it on the floor and as they step onto it imagine they are looking at the situation from the point of view and perception of their child.

Then I ask them to answer these questions through the eyes and ears of their child:

  • What do you see and hear around you at the moment?
  • How do you feel?
  • How could Mum and Dad make you feel better – what could they do or say?

Then I ask the parents to write in this wheel 7 reassurances and guarantees that they can honestly give to their children that will help their child cope with the enormous changes that are coming.






We work on how both parents can agree on what to say before they talk to the children. This helps to avoid mixed messages which confuse, upset and really distress children greatly.

We look at the benefits of telling the children together and we work on overcoming the “blame” mentality and the feeling that it must be someone’s fault. We look at how to avoid the children feeling that they have to take sides.

We also look at taking the emotional charge out of telling the children and help each parent gain more control over their distressing feelings and emotions during this difficult moment.

It is certainly very worthwhile and positive to stop and step back from your current situation to gain clarity, direction and certainty in the decisions you are taking towards handling the difficult and painful area of divorce or separation more confidently.

Sue Atkins is an internationally recognised Parenting Expert, Broadcaster, Speaker and Author of the Amazon best selling books  “Parenting Made Easy – How To Raise Happy Children” & “Raising Happy Children for Dummies” one in the famous black and yellow series as well as author of the highly acclaimed Parenting Made Easy CDs. She has just launched the 1st in her series of Parenting Made Easy apps for iPhones and iPads – The Secrets To Well Behaved Kids 

Sue offers practical guidance for bringing up happy, confident, resilient children from toddler to teen & specialises in using her “5 Step Self Esteem Solution” with families to boost long term self esteem & self confidence.

She regularly appears on the award winning flagship ITV show “This Morning”, BBC Breakfast and “The Jeremy Vine Show” on BBC Radio 2 and is the parenting expert for many BBC Radio Stations around the UK. She is a regular contributor on radio and TV and her parenting articles are published all over the world.

Sue Atkins is an internationally recognised Parenting Expert, Broadcaster, Speaker & Author. Sue is a regular contributor on radio and TV & her parenting articles are published all over the world. Sue brings her expertise on parenting and divorce to Fink Cards where she will publish two new resources to help keep the lines of communication open enabling families to navigate the divorce process more positively.

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Amanda’s Action Club: A Mini Educational Workout!

Action Club is so much more than music and movement; it’s an educational mini-workout! Our sessions help to promote the importance of being active and healthy from an early age. We dance, we sing, we learn through the activities and most importantly of all, we have fun!


Action Club has worked closely with leading UK Early Years experts, who have linked the Action Club activities to the Early Years Foundation Stage and the characteristics of effective teaching and learning.

Adults are encourages to get involved too. Our motto is “Children dance best when grown-ups dance with them!”
We base our classes on four themes:

LEARNING through underpinning the prime areas of the Early Years Foundation Stage Learning and Development (EYFS)

FUN through the vibrant, varied and happy way in which we present our classes using a wide assortment of props and activities

FITNESS through action-packed, high energy activities with music

MUSIC through our specially tailored Action Club songs and nursery rhymes

Your child will learn many different skills without even realising it.

We cover many areas such as colours, numbers and phonics.

Amanda’s Action Club classes focus on the 3 prime areas of the Early Years Foundation Stage Learning and Development framework.

These are:
• Physical Development
• Personal, Social and Emotional Development
• Communication and Language Development

Each activity and song is carefully chosen to ensure your child gets a full physical and educational work out in every class. Amanda also ensures that you both have a lot of fun!

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If you haven’t been to a class before come and try us out. We offer free trial sessions at most venues.

Find out how to book your free session here.

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5 Brilliant Children’s Party Themes

5 Brilliant Children's Party Themes

Planning a child’s party can be a little bit stressful. What food do you make? Do you have entertainment? And let’s not forget the all-important theme.  A children’s party doesn’t seem to be party these days unless you have a theme.

Amanda’s Action Club is here to help. Not only can we provide the entertainment but we can also source the food, the party bags, balloons and the cake!!  We can do it all for and which just leaves you with the party theme and we even have some ideas to help you choose that.  Aren’t we good to you?

The Princess Party

Amanda's Action Club Frozen party


This theme seems to be very popular at the moment, especially Frozen parties. It’s a great excuse to get dressed up and dance around. Have tea-party style food and princess or castle cake and the girls will swoon.


  • Have craft stations to make their own wands or crowns.
  • Get the little princesses up and dancing around to work off that sugar!
  • Try pin the carrot on Olaf instead on pin the tail on the donkey.
  • Face painting or glittery tattoos will have an extra element of fun to the party

The Pirate Party

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Pirate parties go over well with both boys and girls. There is lots of fun to be had at a pirate party.

  • Make a map and send them on a treasure hunt.
  • Get them decorate their own eye patches.
  • Dig for hidden treasure.
  • Pirate tattoos will be popular.
  • Make them walk the plank!
  • Go fishing for treats.
  • Give them all pirate names for the party.

Hungry Caterpillar

This is a great theme for the younger children.  Base your food for the party on the food featured in the book. This will make it nice and healthy and perfect for the little ones to eat.

  • Print off Hungry Caterpillar colouring sheets from the Eric Carle website and make a colouring station.
  • Have fun making caterpillars with pom poms and googly eyes.
  • Design your own butterfly.
  • Read the Hungry Caterpillar book to them and get them to act it out.
  • Send them on a Hungry Caterpillar hunt. Hide caterpillars around the room for them to find.

Superhero Party

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Another great theme for a mixed gender party. Encourage them to invent their own superheroes and dress like them on the day.

  • Have them decorate their own superhero masks or capes.
  • Set a superhero photo booth with lots of props for them to use.
  • A Superhero needs a baddie to beat so get one of the adults to dress as a baddie and get the children to defend the party.
  • Check their hand eye co-ordination and have them fire at targets with silly string just like Spiderman.

Sports Day Party

If your children love sports they will love a sports day themed party. This is brilliant for summer birthdays but can be easily be adapted for an indoor party.

  • Have a sack race.
  • Craft station with medal and trophy decorating.
  • You can’t beat an egg and spoon race.
  • Spilt the party into teams and get them to compete for a main prize.
  • Set up an obstacle course up for them to complete.

Whatever theme you choose don’t forget Amanda’s Action Club is here to help!

Find more party ideas on our Pinterest Board.

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How To Book Your Free Amanda’s Action Club Trial Class Online

Here at Amanda’s Action Club we offer free trial classes to children who have never attended a class before. We believe that after just one class you will want to come back time and time again.

It’s really simple to book your free session through our website.

You will need to register first; this will make sure we have all the information about you and your child we require.

To register click on the register button in the right hand corner of our website.


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You will then be taken to this page to fill in your details.


Next step is your child’s details. You can add additional children to your account once you are registered.

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Last step is filling in your contact details.

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You are now registered and can book classes and your free trial.

To book your free trial class, click on the class you wish to attend.

Please note not all classes offer a free trial.

Click on the free trial button on the class trial 1

Tell us what date you would like to attend. We do require 24 hours’ notice on free trials.

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You will receive an email to confirm your booking.

You are now all ready to attend your first Amanda’s Action Club Class!

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Our Active Christmas Gift Guide for Pre-schoolers

Christmas is creeping up on us, before you know all the gifts have been open and there is wrapping paper everywhere!  It can be stressful trying to find the right gift especially for pre-schoolers, there are only so many toys that they play with.

We have some gift ideas to make your life a little easier and help keep your pre-schooler active.

A balance bike is a great way to introduce a bike to little ones. It doesn’t have pedals and allows them to work on their balance. It’s a great way to get about and encourages them to stay active.

We love this all-weather balance bike from Kids One Stop Shop £99.99


Children don’t always need a physical present an experience can be just as good if not better. Here at Amanda’s Action Club we offer a 5 class pass for just £45, you save £1 per class. Your child will love coming to our fun filled music classes.


A scooter is another great way to encourage your child to keep active and is much quicker than getting them to walk! Micro Scooters have these great 3 in 1 scooters that last from 1 to 5 years £79. 95. It starts off has ride one scooter, you the convert to a toddler scooter and finally it become a mini micro scooter.


Get out and about exploring with these great Woodland Adventure Packs from Little Discoverers. These start from £8 and they encourage learning, having fun and keeping active; a company after our own heart!


Does your child love games? Try Pumpaloons, you have to pump up the pumpaloon as quick as you can.  Lots of fun and you keep active at the same it!


If you are looking for great stocking fillers then you can’t do any better than one of our albums! Keep active at home and have fun by dancing along to our music. You’ll all work off those mince pies in no time!


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5 Alternative Advent Calendar Ideas

Alternative Advent Calendar Ideas

Christmas is sneaking up on us and it won’t be long before the children are demanding their advent calendars. Chocolate every day for 25 days may seem like a brilliant treat for the children but let’s face it, it’s not very healthy.

We have a few alternative ideas to make advent healthy but fun.

Instead of filling your advent calendars with chocolate try alternating dried fruit, homemade biscuits and chocolate.


Buy a Lego kit, wooden village or puzzle. Spread the pieces out evenly over the 25 days and by Christmas day they will have a completed toy.

This little wooden village from Amazon is only £4!


Have a daily activity to complete. Pick an activity out of a jar or bag and have fun! Ideas could include dancing along to an Amanda’s Action Club song, singing a Christmas Carol, baking Christmas biscuits, making Christmas cards or even going on a winter walk.  Have a mixture of activities you can do at home if it’s cold & wet and some that get you out and about.

Wrap up 25 books and choose a new book every day to read together. They can be new books or old favourites.  Take time to sit down, read and enjoy time with your child.

Have an advent treasure hunt. If you are going to give them treats make them work for it! Hide them in a new place each day and give them clues to find them.

For more ideas on alternative calendars visit our advent Pinterest board.

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Amanda Action Classes at National History Museum Ice Rink Cafe Bar

We are really excited to announce that Amanda will be running classes this year at the National History Museum Ice Rink Cafe Bar. From the 5th November until the 4th of December you will be able to join in a class right next to the National History Museum Ice Rink!


Classes will be on Wednesdays at 2.30 and 3.30 pm and Thursdays 10.45 and 11.30 am.

Not been to a class before? Come and make a day of it; visit the National History Museum, go ice skating, take a class and then finish off with a lovely hot chocolate!

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How to Keep Your Child Active This Autumn.

How to Keep Your Child Active This

As the weather gets cooler and wetter its harder to get motivated to get out and about with your child and keep them active. It’s important to keep your child active and fight against the rising obesity levels.  Children under the age of 5 need 3 hours of activity a day!

We have some ideas to make keeping active this autumn fun for both you and your child.

Go On a Nature Trail

Wrap up warm, go to your Local Park or woods and get exploring. Nature Detectives have some great free printables including this great Autumn Hunt sheet.  Tick off the items as you find them. Reward yourself with a hot chocolate afterwards!

Have a Dance Party

If it’s a bit soggy outside, turn the music up and get moving. Our albums are great for this. Download your favourite tracks or buy the whole album. Your children won’t want to stop dancing.

Come to a Amanda’s Action Class


We have classes across London for you to choose from, including new classes at Gambado, Chelsea.  You get to stay and play for an hour after a class at Gambado!  An Amanda’s Action Class is a great way for both of you to have fun and stay active.

If you have never attended a class before contact us about a free taster session.


Leave the cold outside and stay warm in the pool. Swimming is a great way to stay active and have fun at the same time.

Embrace the Rain

If all else fails, get those welly boots on and get jumping in the puddles. Relive your childhood and join them!

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10 Amanda’s Action Club CD’s To Be Won

We are currently running a giveaway over on our Facebook page.

Click through to our Facebook page to find out how to enter

Closing Date: Midnight 14/10/2014
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Our North London Franchisees: Meet Patricia and Priam!

We are very excited to catch up with our North London Franchisees, Patricia Deasy and Priam Dunford.

Inspired by the fun, energetic, and exciting world of Amanda’s Action Club, this couple were thrilled join the Action Club franchise team earlier this year and bring fun, fitness and music to the families of North London.

‘I was a host for Amanda’s Action Club for 2 years and loved every minute of it, so when the opportunity arose to become a franchisee I jumped at the chance (literally)!’  Priam



We asked what made them choose an Action Club franchise.

‘As an ex-British Gymnast, I have always been passionate about sports and fitness. I choose to represent Action Club because it gave me the opportunity to channel my energy and experience into a fun and productive programme. It also allowed me to teach children that being fit and active is not only important for our health, but is also a wonderful opportunity to have fun and make friends!’ Priam

Watch Priam’s Gymnastics skills here!


Priam and Patricia have been running their Action Club franchise since June and its gone from strength to strength.

The first few months have been so many things for myself and Priam! We have met many insightful people, interacted with a lovely community, and learned many new things about this industry. Action Club is a very nurturing and positive business, which brings out the best in both of us and encourages us as if we were family. We are just thrilled with everything we have experienced so far and look forward to the months to come! Patricia




Priam and Patricia run sessions at two different venues in the North London area:

  • The Arts Depot in North Finchley
  • Poem in St. John’s Wood

For more information about these sessions, contact Patricia on 07783160745 or via email at To learn more about Action Club North London, check out .


Are you passionate about children’s health and development?

Always wanted to run your own business?

Does Amanda’s Action Club franchise sound like the right business for you?

To find out more about Amanda’s Action Franchise contact us on


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